Hey I think this is fixed!
Solution: the patched Apple 7.5.3 disk setup tool that is commonly available does not correctly create a volume, it just appears to - when the installer tries to write to that volume it hits whatever didn't get fixed by the patch and it fails.
Fix: Lido does correctly create the volume and after that SCSI2HD V6 (2020c, 6.3.1 firmware) works with no special settings on a SE/30.
I was unable to try the Floppy Emu hard drive image since that is not supported on a SE/30. I suspected Lido might work better than the patched tool but I could not find a system disk image with Lido on it. Eventually I went back to the spinning HD with 6.0.8 on it, took the 6.0.8 .dsk image from BMOW that has the patched 7.5.3 HD tool, trashed it, and put Lido on the disk image instead. After reinstalling the SCSI2HD and booting from the altered .dsk Lido performed a partition/format.
6.0.8 install was initially a failure. The HD operations seemed fine but the Emu could not recognise one of the floppy images - I'll try again after another download.
7 was successful. I am now going through 7.5.3 on another partition of the same SCSI unit and everything appears to be working. Fingers crossed!
I'm feeling confident enough to solder a LED header on the SCSI2HD board and to put the back of the case back
If you are having trouble with the V6 at all, be sure to try Lido and not the Apple patched HD tool.