Tantalums can be tough because they are usually a little wider than electrolytic caps. My technique is to clear both pads completely of solder, then add fresh solder to just one pad. Attach the cap to that side, and use tweezers to adjust it until it's positioned where you like it. (Try not to dump a lot of heat into the cap though.) Once one side is attached, it's much easier to solder the other side. If you're having trouble getting the solder to flow where it's supposed to, the answer is flux. Use loads of it.