~tl
68kMLA Admin Emeritus
Well guys (and girls), I think everyone here would agree that the atmosphere on the forum (and the Lounge in particular) has been a little sucky of late. I thought I'd take a few minutes to write down my thoughts on the matter, with the hope that it'll make you guys think again about yours.
First off, lets try to remember that this forum is primarily about vintage Macs. On the whole, posts in the majority of forums are constructive, on topic and generally showcase the amazing level of technical knowledge that we have in our user-base. While there is occasionally a problem here or there, I'd like to thank all of you for trying your hardest to keep those other forums on topic. I know that the Software forum is another kettle of fish, but we're trying to sort out new policies for that, and you may have seen the announcement in that forum. Now we come to "The Lounge". Duh, duh, duuuuuuuh...
I'm perfectly aware that whenever you have a forum like this, people don't just come here for their vintage Mac fix. They also come here to socialise with other people that share similar interests. Call it the "community" aspect, if you will, though I personally think that that's a term that is banded around too often to cover over the cracks. To that end, we have our general, off-topic, forum where people can relax, unwind, and post about things out-with the confines of the vintage Mac theme. We try not to set any rules about what can/can't be included here, as long as the posts stay "civil" and within the forum rules. Going back to the "community" aspect, I'm fully aware that some people here view other members here as their "friends" and hence feel comfortable sharing every aspect of their personal lives with them. I don't personally share this feeling, although over the years I have come to know and respect a lot of the members here and often chat to them via AIM, etc. There are also some members who want to maintain their privicy, which is laudable, and, for the most part, that seems to be respected.
To the first group of people...
While you may feel comfortable in posting a thread about every little thing that happens in your life, please be aware that some people visit here for the actual technical content, rather than for the community aspect. Try and see it from their point of view. Every time that they log on they are confronted with, and have to wade through, a number of threads about the latest trials and tribulations of a person's life, when all they're really interested in is old Macs. While we are proud that you view this place as somewhere you can share your troubles, please recognise that there may be better places to do so. A blog, Twitter, Facebook, the IRC channel, or even just a single thread about the latest happenings in your life. That way, you're not inconveniencing the people who are here for the technical content too much, and you can still share your life with those that are interested.
To the second...
Please try to be civil towards those members who feel they need to share things about their lives. While you may be here solely for the technical topics, please try to understand that some members see this as a social experience where they can meet like minded people and post in the Lounge as if it were their place to hang out. If you don't like the look of a topic then simply ignore it!
To everybody...
Please quit it with the snide remarks and the bitchy comments. While it may make you feel a bit better, it rarely does anything to improve the topic and generally just causes it to descend in to name calling, etc. The old adage of "if you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything" has rarely been more appropriate. Please think about the consequences of what you post before you do so. If you have a problem with a member in particular it would be better to take it up with them via a private message rather than openly on the forum.
Neither stance is the right one and I'm glad that we have both types of people on here. Maybe I'm oversimplifying things a little as well. However, generally, everyone needs to show a bit more respect to the other members of the community or else this place is going to further descend in to pointless arguments and pettiness.
Cheers,
~T
First off, lets try to remember that this forum is primarily about vintage Macs. On the whole, posts in the majority of forums are constructive, on topic and generally showcase the amazing level of technical knowledge that we have in our user-base. While there is occasionally a problem here or there, I'd like to thank all of you for trying your hardest to keep those other forums on topic. I know that the Software forum is another kettle of fish, but we're trying to sort out new policies for that, and you may have seen the announcement in that forum. Now we come to "The Lounge". Duh, duh, duuuuuuuh...
I'm perfectly aware that whenever you have a forum like this, people don't just come here for their vintage Mac fix. They also come here to socialise with other people that share similar interests. Call it the "community" aspect, if you will, though I personally think that that's a term that is banded around too often to cover over the cracks. To that end, we have our general, off-topic, forum where people can relax, unwind, and post about things out-with the confines of the vintage Mac theme. We try not to set any rules about what can/can't be included here, as long as the posts stay "civil" and within the forum rules. Going back to the "community" aspect, I'm fully aware that some people here view other members here as their "friends" and hence feel comfortable sharing every aspect of their personal lives with them. I don't personally share this feeling, although over the years I have come to know and respect a lot of the members here and often chat to them via AIM, etc. There are also some members who want to maintain their privicy, which is laudable, and, for the most part, that seems to be respected.
To the first group of people...
While you may feel comfortable in posting a thread about every little thing that happens in your life, please be aware that some people visit here for the actual technical content, rather than for the community aspect. Try and see it from their point of view. Every time that they log on they are confronted with, and have to wade through, a number of threads about the latest trials and tribulations of a person's life, when all they're really interested in is old Macs. While we are proud that you view this place as somewhere you can share your troubles, please recognise that there may be better places to do so. A blog, Twitter, Facebook, the IRC channel, or even just a single thread about the latest happenings in your life. That way, you're not inconveniencing the people who are here for the technical content too much, and you can still share your life with those that are interested.
To the second...
Please try to be civil towards those members who feel they need to share things about their lives. While you may be here solely for the technical topics, please try to understand that some members see this as a social experience where they can meet like minded people and post in the Lounge as if it were their place to hang out. If you don't like the look of a topic then simply ignore it!
To everybody...
Please quit it with the snide remarks and the bitchy comments. While it may make you feel a bit better, it rarely does anything to improve the topic and generally just causes it to descend in to name calling, etc. The old adage of "if you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything" has rarely been more appropriate. Please think about the consequences of what you post before you do so. If you have a problem with a member in particular it would be better to take it up with them via a private message rather than openly on the forum.
Neither stance is the right one and I'm glad that we have both types of people on here. Maybe I'm oversimplifying things a little as well. However, generally, everyone needs to show a bit more respect to the other members of the community or else this place is going to further descend in to pointless arguments and pettiness.
Cheers,
~T